Time for you

Time for you to relax

What does time for you mean? If you are a mother and or wife you may have forgotten what time for you is. Time for you is time for you to regroup, get to know you again. You are a person beyond your family, you deserve nourishment just like everyone else. With how busy life is today with running the kids everywhere and something is always happening somewhere, we forget about ourselves. We matter, time for you matters. It is perfectly ok to hang a sign on your bedroom doorknob that says you are not to be disturbed. Or get dressed up and run out of the house before the kids know you are gone. That one never works for me.

Kids and husbands never think twice about leaving you to go do whatever it is they want to do. So why are you not taking time for you? So many women I try to do things with for some girl time say they are to busy, always to busy. How can you be to busy to take care of yourself, always? Having families does not mean we have to give up everything for ourselves. I am not talking about going out every night doing goodness only knows what. I am talking about being too busy to tell your husband you are leaving to get a manicure done. Or spending the money on a sitter so you can go out on a girls night and actually have adult conversations. Heck, when was the last time you went clothes shopping for only yourself? Or bought yourself a new outfit because you wanted to, not because there was a hole in your clothes.

Something small I do for myself

Being a mom can definitely be one of the best things you ever get to experience. But why are we losing ourselves to that experience? One of my latest time for me pass times is watching a Paparazzi Jewelry consultant. I leave my family to sit at our computer and listen with headphones so I can hide and hear the show without interruption. It may seem little but it is sometime I get to clear my mind of everything. During that time I do not need to do anything, just sit back and relax. I make a cup of tea and let it all go.

Recently I have also been thinking about multi-tasking and doing a manicure while I watch the live show. I need to buy some new tools because my kids lost my old ones. Things like that happen a lot with my kids and fibro fog. Things I forget about putting away they get into. And I just found one for a great price and an almost five-star rating! Excitement!

Life is never going to stop or slow down so make it stop for you at some point. Put yourself and maybe even your girlfriends into your schedule. Yes, actually go get your favorite writing tool for your appointment book or calendar right now and write your name and a time down. You matter, so show other people that you know you matter by actually taking that time for yourself. Do not reschedule!

Things to do while taking time for you,

To find these groups I used meetups.com. I have found this website to be a very useful tool when trying to find a group of anything, people.
The list is endless, the ones where you have an appointment or regularly scheduled time are the best. Because those times you know you are going to get exactly what you need. When we do not have anything regularly scheduled for ourselves we have an easier time forgetting about ourselves. With Fibro, we really have to remember that we need even more extra care than others. We still run homes and possibly have jobs outside those homes. We need me time or we are going to fall apart.

What it took for me to realize I need me time

When things were going really bad for me with sleep deprivation and heart palpitations along with the other well-known side effects of fibro, I thought I was going to die. I had a baby who never slept, for three months my husband and I slept in shifts. We were at our breaking point when she finally started sleeping at night. I was not yet diagnosed at that time but since life was so crazy I didn’t even schedule doctor appointments for myself. I did not take the time to take care of me. Now, what if Fibro was a medical condition that was fatal. I would have been kicking myself even harder for not being checked out sooner. I mean I was having heart palpitations and I didn’t call for an appointment.

The point is, you need to take care of yourself no matter how silly it may seem with everyone so busy.

Here are some self care ideas from CleanPlates.com.

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What is Fibromyalgia

What it feels like to have fibromyalgia


What is Fibromyalgia? That is a question that when searched on the internet is improperly answered on most websites. So today I went in search of a credible website that gave a proper answer. Because most websites are very misleading when giving an accurate account of Fibromyalgia symptoms. All that is barely discussed is the pain we go through. They say we have widespread pain and joint pain. The side effects of Fibromyalgia are much more than just pain. Although I am sure anyone with Fibromyalgia would say the pain is more than enough to deal with.

Most websites I have ever come across leave out very important side effects. So if a spouse or someone who is undiagnosed went in search of answers they would be improperly informed. Most websites leave out the mood changes, lack of energy, sleep deprivation, and fibro fog or brain fog among others. These are very important side effects that inflict those with Fibromyalgia on a daily or almost daily basis. They also affect the loved ones who are searching for answers. Everyone with this medical condition suffers differently. The severity of the side effects and how much certain side effects affect us can also be different for each person dealing with this.

What is FIbromyalgia?So what is Fibromyalgia?

I have found a great website for explaining things, the Arthritis Foundation.  Since their explanation is so great I will leave it to them. They explain what it is, what you can do to take care of it, prescriptions offered and also why prescriptions are not a cure. I agree very much with everything I read from their website. I believe they have put an explanation of our condition together very nicely.

My own experience

Through my own research, I have found a couple of things that really help me. They are things that most people say they at either unwilling to do or can’t do for one reason or another. I find when someone is ready to get better they will try anything they have to. Until they are ready they cannot be pushed into anything.

Some things I treat my Fibro with

My favorite ways to treat my fibro is through exercise and nutrition. I am not talking about extreme fitness. For some reason in America, we believe more difficult or extreme the better. But that is not the case at all. A walk can be more than enough. Lifting light weights and moving the body part that is in pain for a period of time is a great option.

If I wake up in the middle of the night I will roll out my exercise mat and pick up the heaviest weights I have in my room. I then lay the weights on each side of me and I lay myself down. Then I will do chest work first because lifting the heavyweight will usually get me ready to sleep faster. If I am still awake after I have finished my chest workout I will grab a resistance band, put it around my calf and do leg exercises I can do while laying down. This is just an example of what I do. Not everything I do for my fibro is listed.

With my nutrition, I first started with supplements. I am not a healthcare professional so I turned to a book. I was raised with natural care and as I started raising my own family I decided on natural care too. Because whichever creator you believe in we were created naturally so why are we treating ourselves with man-made drugs? Regulated or not we do not need the drugs to live with Fibro. There are actual studies that say the pain-killers make our pain worse. I turned to the pain-killers for my first year of diagnosed Fibromyalgia too. So I know how people who use them feel, you want the pain gone, you just want to not feel for a while. Pain is exhausting, it changes your mood and who in the world wants to be in pain anyway??

I hope this helps.

After the supplements, I started on changing my food. This is the book I started my natural journey with.

I hope this post has helped you with the link to the Arthritis Foundations, What is Fibromyalgia. If you decide to try the natural way of healing I hope you can find things in the book I suggested to help you make your life better.

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