What does time for you mean? If you are a mother and or wife you may have forgotten what time for you is. Time for you is time for you to regroup, get to know you again. You are a person beyond your family, you deserve nourishment just like everyone else. With how busy life is today with running the kids everywhere and something is always happening somewhere, we forget about ourselves. We matter, time for you matters. It is perfectly ok to hang a sign on your bedroom doorknob that says you are not to be disturbed. Or get dressed up and run out of the house before the kids know you are gone. That one never works for me.
Kids and husbands never think twice about leaving you to go do whatever it is they want to do. So why are you not taking time for you? So many women I try to do things with for some girl time say they are to busy, always to busy. How can you be to busy to take care of yourself, always? Having families does not mean we have to give up everything for ourselves. I am not talking about going out every night doing goodness only knows what. I am talking about being too busy to tell your husband you are leaving to get a manicure done. Or spending the money on a sitter so you can go out on a girls night and actually have adult conversations. Heck, when was the last time you went clothes shopping for only yourself? Or bought yourself a new outfit because you wanted to, not because there was a hole in your clothes.
Something small I do for myself
Being a mom can definitely be one of the best things you ever get to experience. But why are we losing ourselves to that experience? One of my latest time for me pass times is watching a Paparazzi Jewelry consultant. I leave my family to sit at our computer and listen with headphones so I can hide and hear the show without interruption. It may seem little but it is sometime I get to clear my mind of everything. During that time I do not need to do anything, just sit back and relax. I make a cup of tea and let it all go.
Recently I have also been thinking about multi-tasking and doing a manicure while I watch the live show. I need to buy some new tools because my kids lost my old ones. Things like that happen a lot with my kids and fibro fog. Things I forget about putting away they get into. And I just found one for a great price and an almost five-star rating! Excitement!
Life is never going to stop or slow down so make it stop for you at some point. Put yourself and maybe even your girlfriends into your schedule. Yes, actually go get your favorite writing tool for your appointment book or calendar right now and write your name and a time down. You matter, so show other people that you know you matter by actually taking that time for yourself. Do not reschedule!
Things to do while taking time for you,
- Join a book club
- Start a free educational program on the internet
- Mani and Pedi
- Regular visits to the hair salon
- Shopping, just for you
- Lunch with the girls
- A movie, just for you. Matinee to make it safer for you when you leave
- knitting or crochet group
- Craft Club
- Join the PTA to meet new friends for more girl time
- Start a project you have wanted to do for yourself
- Spa visit
- Join a Fibromyalgia Support Group
- Meditation session
- Yoga or Pilates class
- Have what I call a “girly night”. I do a lot of self-care on a girly night.
To find these groups I used meetups.com. I have found this website to be a very useful tool when trying to find a group of anything, people.
The list is endless, the ones where you have an appointment or regularly scheduled time are the best. Because those times you know you are going to get exactly what you need. When we do not have anything regularly scheduled for ourselves we have an easier time forgetting about ourselves. With Fibro, we really have to remember that we need even more extra care than others. We still run homes and possibly have jobs outside those homes. We need me time or we are going to fall apart.
What it took for me to realize I need me time
When things were going really bad for me with sleep deprivation and heart palpitations along with the other well-known side effects of fibro, I thought I was going to die. I had a baby who never slept, for three months my husband and I slept in shifts. We were at our breaking point when she finally started sleeping at night. I was not yet diagnosed at that time but since life was so crazy I didn’t even schedule doctor appointments for myself. I did not take the time to take care of me. Now, what if Fibro was a medical condition that was fatal. I would have been kicking myself even harder for not being checked out sooner. I mean I was having heart palpitations and I didn’t call for an appointment.
The point is, you need to take care of yourself no matter how silly it may seem with everyone so busy.
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